Not every picture has to be a portrait...

There are a MILLION photographers talking these days about getting in the picture and taking more pictures of your own family. This is more for me to look back when I lose sight again...because I'm sure I will.

Ever since I've gotten into the whole photography thing, I may have gone a little over board. McKenna has been my model from day one. When I look back through all the pictures of her first year, there are so many! The older she gets, though, the fewer pictures I have of her. I have learned so much about photography in the almost 2 years that I've been doing it. {Wow, has it been 2 years already?} I am lightyears ahead of where I was when I started {and I know I have lightyears to go}. So, the more I've learned, the higher my standards have gotten for what an acceptable picture is...what the acceptable conditions as far as lighting and environment are. I've found myself taking fewer pictures of everyday things and turning everything into a photo shoot. I've turned McKenna into a subject and lost sight of the fact that she's my child and I'm missing things.

So...I have busted out my smaller DSLR {glad I never sold it}, put it in auto {it still kinda breaks my heart}, switched it from RAW over to JPEG, and have started taking random snap shots of everyday things and everyday nothings. It's still weird with the pop-up flash and all, but MAN I wish I'd done this sooner...like for her birthday. I didn't get nearly as many pictures as I should have because I was worried about angles and lighting and aperture and shutter speed and bouncing my flash and focal points. I should have just been taking pictures. But...she is only two, so I have a lot of moments ahead of me still to capture. Of course, for big things {and if the lighting is naturally agreeable} I'll pull out the big camera and be a little more serious about it.

I'm writing all this down so when I start getting a little too ME about it, I can remember all the moments I am missing and get myself back on track.

You Get What You Give

So I've been thinking about this post for a few days just kind of writing it in my mind.

I have always heard that you get back from your body what you put in it. If you put in healthy foods and drinks, exercise regularly, and take care of yourself you'll have energy and feel great. If you put it sodas and junk, you'll be sluggish and just generally feel like crap. Also, I think it's pretty well known that you crave what you consume. If all you feed yourself is sugar you'll want more. If you start drinking a lot of water, that's what your body will want.

I have found from personal experience lately that it works the same for us spiritually as it does physically. If all you put in your mind is negative things, it really starts to affect you. You search out more negative things and the next thing you know, all the good and positive that you know is overtaken and overshadowed by negativity. Other people's perceptions and opinions do not have to affect our own. What makes sense to them does not have to make sense to me. On the flip side, if you fill your mind with good things then that's what you'll search out. You'll find ways to get past the things you struggle with. You may not get a resolution to your issues, but oddly enough you'll feel at peace about that.

I had been filling my head with negative and completely laying aside all of the positive. It's toxic. This last week or so I have made the switch back to only seeking that which is uplifting and helpful. It's so amazing how things that I have been struggling with don't really have anything to do with the specific negative things that I have let in. Since I have been focusing only on the positive, the unrelated struggles have eased. It helped me to see that everything is tied together, even if it's not obvious to us at the time. It's been a great lesson to me.

So my new goal: No matter how tempting and enticing the negativity seems, it's just not worth it. If I focus on what I know to be true and the rest will fall into place!

Thankful

So, as probably 99% of the people that read this already know, I am Mormon. And proud of it. I've had some things on my heart and my mind and this is probably the most appropriate place to share them.

I have so much to be thankful for. Awesome family on both sides being one of them. Cody and I both have the most amazing parents that are always there for us. It's amazing to me that each set of parents (we have 3 between the two of us) are there for us when we need them in different but equal ways. We love them and have no clue what we'd do without them. 

I'm thankful for McKenna and her health. She has been without health insurance for over a year and the worst she's had is colds and a couple ear infections. We have been truly blessed with that. 

I am so very thankful for friends. With as awesome as we are I know it's hard to believe, but we don't have a lot of them. We've been in a position the last couple of years that have made it hard to cultivate friendships. We are looking forward to now being in a position again to do that.

Our friends Levi and Jessica (who MOVED and we MISS them) made it so easy to keep a friendship going in our situation. They understood and went above and beyond what they had to. They had us over ALL the time and kept me SANE. They gave me shoulders to cry on, ears to complain to, brains to pick. Seriously amazing people and I hate that they're gone. HATE it. 

My friend Kayli is also amazing. We have only met in person a couple times but she has also been a brain to pick. She is an AWESOME example and I'm so thankful for her influence. 

Then there is Liz. Liz has been my photography mentor, friend, and spiritual guide. She understands me and how my brain works (which is amazing in and of itself) and can explain things in a way I understand. She has been invaluable. Seriously. 

And Amanda. Amanda has been there for me through every phase. (She's Cody's cousin.) We've only met in person once but have talked on Facebook and through text seriously almost every day for I don't know how long. Years maybe? She has been with me through my ups and downs, faith and doubt, happiness and sadness. I'm so lucky to have her! 

Jillian. My sister-in-law. She loves me accepts me even though we have different belief systems. There is a deep level of acceptance between us and it's just awesome. 

There are others, and I don't mean to leave anyone out. 

I am thankful for Cody. He has been...everything I need. He has been my north star helping me to find my way. We have found our ways together, I think. I am so thankful for his introducing me to our faith. It has had such an impact on my life. We are so blessed to have been sealed to each other and our daughter in the Salt Lake City LDS Temple in March. It was an amazing experience. I am just beyond thankful to have and eternal marriage and family. I feel complete. I love the Temple and all that it stands for. Heavenly Father loves us so much that he created a way for us to exist in eternity as a family unit. I couldn't think of anyone that I'd rather make that eternal commitment to than Cody.

My heart is just so full right now. There are days that I struggle. Of course. Don't we all at times? But at the end of the day, I know how I feel and I know what I believe. I am so very thankful for the plan of salvation. 

Be A Blessing

So, I was thinking the other day....

Cody and I have been back in Church about 7 months now and we have been blessed beyond imagination! But if I'm being totally honest with you, it's not been in the ways I wanted. I know that God promises us blessings for following His plan. For tithing. For reading scriptures. For putting Him first. For lots of other things. I have been looking for blessings. I have been looking for a house. I have been looking for a job for Cody. I have been looking for temporal things. Things to make life easier. Things to make me *happy* in this life. I have been so caught up in "What am I getting out of this?" that I have completely missed the point! I have completely missed all of the blessings that we have been given. I have a great job. I have a business on the side that I love. I have a husband that would do anything within his power for me. I have family, both by blood and by marriage, that love and accept me for who I am. I have a smartsmartsmart, sweet, beautiful little girl who just lights up my world. She is happy. She is healthy. I am in a Church that I love!!! With a Church family that is second to none. I have friends that sacrifice of their time to share their knowledge, wisdom, and talents with me seeking nothing in return.

But this isn't about "Oh, look how wonderful my life is." I mean parts of it are....I still really would like to have a job for my husband and our own roof over our heads...

Here is, what I think, the point to living a righteous life is: It's not about getting blessings, it's about being a blessing. Have you ever thought that maybe God was wanting to bless you with something but that He couldn't because the person He wanted to use to manifest that blessing in your life isn't living their own life in a way that He can use them? (Does that make sense?) So let's go a little further with that thought: What if YOU are the one that is meant to be the manifestor (Yes, I know that's not a word but I like it. K?) of someone else's blessing but Heavenly Father can't use you because you aren't in a position that He can? Wow....when I had that thought....it hit me like a ton of bricks. I am always so focused on myself and what I can get out of everything that I completely forget the other people around me. I forget to look for what I can do for my husband, my child, family, and friends. Maybe I am meant to be a blessing in someone's life and they are getting their blessing because of me.

So my new goal is twofold: #1 Stop focusing on what I don't have and don't get to do and start focusing on what I do have. #2 Start looking for ways to bless other people.

I want to help. I want to be there for someone that needs me. So many people have helped me with so many things. I want to pay it forward. I want to be in a position spiritually that Heavenly Father can use me to manifest someone else's blessing.

I want to do right and live a righteous life not so I can receive blessings....but so I can BE a blessing.

Sharing

I have been having some really random thoughts lately. Instead of keeping them to myself or posting a quick Facebook status, I have decided to share them. I have a blog, so why not? Right?

The first thought I had was the vast difference in in telling a person something and sharing it with them. I can tell you about my God, my work, my family. Telling you requires no emotion. You get the facts. You know the story. Right? I think not. I want to strive to share things with people. By sharing my God with you, I can express to you how much I love Him and all the wonderful things that He's done for me. I can help you feel that same love and maybe see some things He's done for you as well. If I share my photography with you, I can explain to you how much work I've put into it and how much work will always be required. You can be excited with me when I get *that* shot I was going for. If I tell you a story about McKenna's newest achievement and mimic her sweet, precious little voice as best I can, you can laugh with me. You can be proud of my baby like I am.

I don't want to just tell you about my life, I want to share my life with you. I want you to read my posts and know how I'm feeling when I write them. If I have the pleasure of talking to you in person, I want you to hear the joy in voice and see the love in my eyes. Life is a wonderful gift. Family is so precious.

These are things that should be shared!

Little Drummer Boy

I have had a rough couple of days. I won't get into the nitty gritty of it all, because I don't personally like to air my dirty laundry over the internet. Although, sometimes I wonder if it would help other people that may feel like me to just know they're not alone. I haven't figured out any special answers to share, but sometimes it helps to know that it isn't just you. Anyway, that's not what this post is about.

The last couple days have been rough. So....to try and help myself out of my funk I loaded a Christmas playlist onto my Zune. I have some Michael Buble', Rascal Flatts, and Mercy Me. Let me tell you...I LOVE Christmas music. If it wouldn't drive everyone around me nuts, I'd listen to it year round! It always makes me cheery and happy.

There was one song in particular that came on my playlist this morning. It was Mercy Me's version of The Little Drummer Boy. I've heard this song I don't know how many thousands of times. This particular time, though, something in the song really struck me.

"I am a poor boy, too
Pa, rum, pa, pum, pum
I have no gift to bring
Pa, rum, pa, pum, pum
That's fit
To give a king"


It just really made me think that I have nothing to give Him. I have no riches, I have no land, I have nothing that I could hand my King and be proud of my gift. It's a good thing that's not what He wants from us. I have my heart that I can give, my life, my will. Everything that I am. But even that's not enough compared to what He has given me. The amazing thing in all of this is that He doesn't care that it's not enough! Although it doesn't seem like much to me, it's all that He asks. This life isn't even mine. He gave that to me, too. So why can't I give it back to Him? What reason could I possible have for not? What we do for ourselves in this life won't last. It won't matter in the end. It's what we have done for Him and in His name that will be remembered through eternity.

Such a simple song that we've all heard over and over and over. Such a powerful message.

Confessions: Things You May or May Not Know About Me

I've been thinking about this blog post for a few days. Someone asked a group of people to share something about themselves that no one or very few people knew. I couldn't think of anything at that moment, but have been mulling over that question since then. I have come up with a few things I will share with you, if you care to read them.

• I have a serious obsession with Jesse McCartney. More his music than he himself, actually. The song Body Language is my happy song...which leads me to my next confession...
• I know the dance to Body Language...and I learned it about 2 years ago...at the age of 24...
• I only like to listen to music that I know. I love to sing and I can't sing songs I don't know. Usually, my only exposure to new music comes through Cody.
• I always have these grand dreams of exercising and getting in shape, but I never do it. I say I don't have time but I really do. 
• I don't care as much what I look like as I do what number is on the scale. Once the number gets where I want it, then I worry what I look like.
• I get major food guilt. Like bad. Like I just ate a cookie and I feel guilty and bad. I hate that.
• Back to music....I never once bought an N*Sync or Backstreet Boys CD. I am more of a 98* kinda girl. And I WISH they would do a reunion of some sort. I pray for it.
• I LIVE for Thursday nights. Vampire Diaries and Secret Circle are my new TV obsessions. I have seriously been thinking about that all day today and I. Am. So. Excited. Thattodayisthursday.
• I miss my past in the sense that it was fun while it lasted, but if I were to try to live that life again, I don't think I could. I love the memories I have but am happy with the path I have chosen for my future.
• The hardest thing in the world to me is to have faith. I like to see facts. Faith isn't believing things you can prove. It's believing things you can't. It's something I really have to work at. I don't want the faith of Job. I'm afraid if I ask for that kind of faith, I'll be put through what he went through. I feel like I'm already going through enough. 
• I believe that I am where I am now solely because of decisions that I have made. I had a great foundation. I was raised in a Christian home with Godly parents. When I moved out, I tore most of that foundation down and started built myself a new one. Now I'm trying to tear that new foundation down and rebuild yet again one that's worth working on. With the thought in mind that sometimes God has to break us down so we can be built up in a right way...I hope I'm almost done breaking. I feel like I can't break anymore. I'm ready to start building back up. I'm working on it, anyway.
• Oh, on a happier, lighter note...I love my Halloween costume. I'm going to be a flapper and I feel as though I was born in the wrong generation while wearing it.
• And on a related note, I'm happy Cody decided to match me. This year will be legen...wait for it....dary. 

I think that's it for now. It's just a small insight into my mind! <3

Sooo....we moved...

We decided, after lots of prayer and very little deliberation, to move in with Cody's parents. We didn't really have time to deliberate. We had a few situations arise that kind of made our decision for us. The main one being Cody's job. He was at a place...that wasn't a good fit. I won't get into any detail because at this point it doesn't really matter, but I was proud of him. He put his conscience and morals before money. I was SO proud of him. I know that he will be blessed for this decision. I am hoping that blessing comes in the form of another job, but we shall see. A couple of friends that I talk to via Facebook have offers suggestions, so we will be looking into those.

I just want to say a BIG thank you to those aforementioned Facebook friends. It's amazing how I can feel so connected two people that I have only met once in person each, and poured my heart out to over the internet! Two great examples to me of faith.

An even BIGGER thank you to my lovely mother. She has been there for me in more ways than I can list. She has been a rock for me and a shining example of a Christian woman and mother. I <3 her!

Oh man! Our good friends are MOVING to ANOTHER STATE....THIS WEEKEND! I can't believe it's already time! We're going to miss you guys so much! I hope you come back for a visit soon! Like...next week?

So now that I've pretty much rambled about a few different things, I'll let you get back to something productive!

I'm still here!

Although I am quite certain no one missed me, I am back. We'll see if I keep up with this! I have so many thoughts and feelings floating around in my head, it's hard to keep it all straight!

We still live with my mom. It's been 14.5 months now. We are ready to move out into our own place. It's about that time. It's been so wonderful that they have shared their home with us this long and we are thankful that they have been so generous with their space. We have a couple options: A. We can get an apartment or B. We can move in with Cody's parents and get an apartment after the 1st of the year. There are pros and cons to both, none of which I will get into here, and it's a really hard decision to make. I know what I want to do, but I don't know what's best.

We've looked at an apartment that we love. Well, I  love it anyway. I've already thought about how we could utilize the small space and ways to decorate. I can picture that being home. That's what I want. Our own home. Just Me, Cody, McKenna, and Chloe. I love my in-laws and I know that we would be welcome and would have lots of fun living there. But we've been living with someone for over a year now. I want my own kitchen. I want my own washer and dryer. I want to cook my own dinner for my own family. I need a place that I am in charge of. So that's the housing drama!

McKenna is growing like a weed! This child...is just amazing! She repeats everything we say. (Good thing we've cleaned up our language!) She wants to climb all over everything. I think we're getting her some sort of jungle gym for Christmas. Maybe one of those plasticky Little Tykes ones or something. She brings so much love and joy to our family, it's unreal. Being her mommy is so much more than I ever thought it would be. I wouldn't trade it for the world!

My photography is going well. I have a couple things coming up. I'm really kind of settling into it and becoming more comfortable with it. It really is my passion. The only thing I don't like is the time missed with my family. It's not that much right now. I plan on keeping myself limited, too, until I can make a full time job out of it. I don't want to work 40 hours a week at my full time job and then miss out on special times with my family to go work another. Thankfully that hasn't been too much of an issue and I am mindful of it so it never should be. I love photography but I love my family more!

I think that's about all the catching up there is to be done!!!

Branching Out

I have a Facebook page and a Blog for my photography now. I also ordered some business cards. I'm hoping to try to put myself out there some more. I really want to get some more experience. I'm loving what I'm doing so far and can't wait to do more!

Photography Business

So I have officially started my photography business! I'm really excited about it. I started a new blog that I will be using as a website. I also made a Facebook page for it. There is no such thing as too much exposure, right?

More Pictures

This seems to be all I do/want to do these days...take and edit pictures. I got some new things which I am thrilled about! I got an external flash with a Gary Fong Lightspere, a backdrop setup, and some things for Photoshop. I did some playing around with McKenna this weekend. She's such a good model! I also did some things with Cody's brothers and sister but somehow deleted all 190 pictures which I am STILL mad about. There were some really great ones in there. Still not sure how I managed that! I have also recently made a photography blog to try and put myself out there. If you like, check it out! www.mwellsphoto.blogspot.com The picture of the lovely family was before I got my new toys!

McKenna 6 Months

So yesterday was McKenna's 6 month check-up and she did GREAT! She talked and laughed with the doctor. When it came time for shots, of course she cried...but not for as long or as much as she did last time. The whole rest of the day she was so pleasant and happy and FUNNY! She was cracking me up. After her appointment we spent the rest of the day with Justin and Jillian and it was so nice to hang out with them! We haven't done that in too long! While we were out there I got some shots of McKenna. I think they came out pretty good!

My Photography

Our Valentine's Day Party at Work

Pound Cake

Baby Gavin Stephens

My Sweet McKenna

My Puppy Chloe

A Belated Birth Announcement :)

Randy's Old Chevy Truck

Snowy Texas

The Ever-Lovely Jillian

Jillian

Random Train

Amber and Gavin

Amber Stephens

Baby Gavin Again

Dumplins

I have been dabbling in photography just a little so I thought I'd share some of my favorite pictures.

5 Months

McKenna Just turned 5 months old last Monday. She has so much personality and I love it! She is definitely becoming somewhat of a diva. She let's us know when we aren't meeting her expectations!

She is starting to discover faces and that there are things located on them. I've been poked in the eye, had my cheeks pinched, and she had a death grip on my nose once that I never thought she'd break! She also loves Cody's facial hair. She just pats it. She and Chloe are seeming to become great friends. Chloe will just kiss her hands and face and McKenna will smile. She'll also reach out to touch Chloe's back and face. They've come a long way!

We started her on baby food at 4 months old and she is doing GREAT with it! She loves it. The only thing that she didn't seem to care for was peas. I'm not sure if it was the taste or the thicker texture but she did gag a little. She ate them, just not happily.

She smiles when I come into the room which just makes my heart melt! Not only does she know who I am but she LIKES me!

New Hobby

I've kind of been getting into photography lately and I am loving it! We got a DSLR camera before McKenna was born and we've used it, but not like a DSLR. We've been using it as a point and shoot, really. I have just recently just started using it more to its full potential. I still have a lot to learn, but I've also come a long way so far. I did a maternity shoot for my friend Amber. I was quite pleased with the results. Here are some of the pictures I took and edited.

I'm so excited!

I am just thrilled about this upcoming year! There is so much to be thankful for and look forward to!

I'm thankful first of all for my little family. I love Cody and McKenna so much and feel so blessed to have been given them. I truly don't deserve them. I am also so very thankful for our individual families. They are always there for us and are all wonderful people!

I'm excited that we'll be out of debt and able to buy our own house this year! That is such a huge thing to me. How awesome will that be to be able to say that this early in our lives? That we are debt-free and own our own home?! This is another reason I am thankful for my family and for Cody. If it weren't for my parents letting us live with them while we pay things off and Cody being so strict (even though I hate it sometimes) about money that we spend, this wouldn't be possible. It just makes me thrilled to know that we'll be able to give McKenna a good life.

I'm also hoping to try and get into shape this year, as is everyone else in the world I'm sure. Not just losing weight, but getting in shape and healthy. I want to be able to keep up with McKenna when she goes running around! I would also like to be a little more in shape if/when I get pregnant again. I think it would make the recovery for my body a little better next time around!

I am grateful for my job and the doctors that I work for are wonderful! I'm excited to see how the practice develops and changes over the next year. I love my coworkers and am glad to have made some great friends in the time that I've been here.

I'm sure I could keep going on, but these things were on my mind this morning so I thought I'd share!

Wow....

Has it really been since March that I posted on here?! Guess I've been busy...I've kept up with all things baby a little better on the baby blog, but now that she's here and officially a part of the family, I think I'll just keep this one updated. It's been a little too long on both of them to catch up on everything, so I'll hit the major points, post some pictures, and try to keep up better from here on out.

McKenna was born August 10 weighing in at 6lbs 7oz and 19 1/2 inches long. She's a beautiful little girl and we love her sooo much! Recently her personality has really started to develop. She's so happy all the time unless she's hungry or tired. We recently started her on baby food and she loves it! She didn't know what to think at first but by the second day she was slurping it down. She was trying to take my hand and shove the spoon into her mouth! Her technique is a little off... She's holding her head up perfectly all on her own. She can almost sit up by herself and she isn't crawling yet, but she's trying to get there! She has definitely found her voice and lets us know if she feels like she's being ignored. She loves Dad so much! I know she loves me too, but she just lights up when she sees him. It's the cutest thing ever.

We moved in with my parents in July. We are paying off debt and saving up for a down payment on a house. It's not the most ideal situation for anyone, but it's working out pretty well. It's going to be so nice to start out in our own place free of debt. I'm so excited. We've kind of started to look at houses but we're not quite there yet.

I think that's about it... :)

Less than 24 hours old

Halloween 2010

Baby's First Thanksgiving

Shopping for her first Christmas Tree

Christmas pictures by Mommy

We're having....

....A GIRL!!! We just found out this morning. Her name is McKenna Ann and we can't wait to meet her!!! Right now I am 19 weeks along. She is about 6 inches and weighs 9 ounces. So tiny but so perfect! As soon as I get the pics from today I'll post them too.

Just wanted you to know!!!

Baby

In case you don't follow my baby blog ( www.baby-wells2010.blogspot.com ) , here are some sono pictures that we did on Friday 03-12. We find out what the baby is on Tuesday 03-23, as long as it cooperates this time!!

Sucking it's thumb.

Love that you can see the bones.

Facing down.

No Mommy, I'm not ready to show you yet!

(Covering whatever "parts" it has with it's left hand)

I'll let you know next week if we are having McKenna Ann or Camden Tyler!!!