Not every picture has to be a portrait...

There are a MILLION photographers talking these days about getting in the picture and taking more pictures of your own family. This is more for me to look back when I lose sight again...because I'm sure I will.

Ever since I've gotten into the whole photography thing, I may have gone a little over board. McKenna has been my model from day one. When I look back through all the pictures of her first year, there are so many! The older she gets, though, the fewer pictures I have of her. I have learned so much about photography in the almost 2 years that I've been doing it. {Wow, has it been 2 years already?} I am lightyears ahead of where I was when I started {and I know I have lightyears to go}. So, the more I've learned, the higher my standards have gotten for what an acceptable picture is...what the acceptable conditions as far as lighting and environment are. I've found myself taking fewer pictures of everyday things and turning everything into a photo shoot. I've turned McKenna into a subject and lost sight of the fact that she's my child and I'm missing things.

So...I have busted out my smaller DSLR {glad I never sold it}, put it in auto {it still kinda breaks my heart}, switched it from RAW over to JPEG, and have started taking random snap shots of everyday things and everyday nothings. It's still weird with the pop-up flash and all, but MAN I wish I'd done this sooner...like for her birthday. I didn't get nearly as many pictures as I should have because I was worried about angles and lighting and aperture and shutter speed and bouncing my flash and focal points. I should have just been taking pictures. But...she is only two, so I have a lot of moments ahead of me still to capture. Of course, for big things {and if the lighting is naturally agreeable} I'll pull out the big camera and be a little more serious about it.

I'm writing all this down so when I start getting a little too ME about it, I can remember all the moments I am missing and get myself back on track.

You Get What You Give

So I've been thinking about this post for a few days just kind of writing it in my mind.

I have always heard that you get back from your body what you put in it. If you put in healthy foods and drinks, exercise regularly, and take care of yourself you'll have energy and feel great. If you put it sodas and junk, you'll be sluggish and just generally feel like crap. Also, I think it's pretty well known that you crave what you consume. If all you feed yourself is sugar you'll want more. If you start drinking a lot of water, that's what your body will want.

I have found from personal experience lately that it works the same for us spiritually as it does physically. If all you put in your mind is negative things, it really starts to affect you. You search out more negative things and the next thing you know, all the good and positive that you know is overtaken and overshadowed by negativity. Other people's perceptions and opinions do not have to affect our own. What makes sense to them does not have to make sense to me. On the flip side, if you fill your mind with good things then that's what you'll search out. You'll find ways to get past the things you struggle with. You may not get a resolution to your issues, but oddly enough you'll feel at peace about that.

I had been filling my head with negative and completely laying aside all of the positive. It's toxic. This last week or so I have made the switch back to only seeking that which is uplifting and helpful. It's so amazing how things that I have been struggling with don't really have anything to do with the specific negative things that I have let in. Since I have been focusing only on the positive, the unrelated struggles have eased. It helped me to see that everything is tied together, even if it's not obvious to us at the time. It's been a great lesson to me.

So my new goal: No matter how tempting and enticing the negativity seems, it's just not worth it. If I focus on what I know to be true and the rest will fall into place!

Thankful

So, as probably 99% of the people that read this already know, I am Mormon. And proud of it. I've had some things on my heart and my mind and this is probably the most appropriate place to share them.

I have so much to be thankful for. Awesome family on both sides being one of them. Cody and I both have the most amazing parents that are always there for us. It's amazing to me that each set of parents (we have 3 between the two of us) are there for us when we need them in different but equal ways. We love them and have no clue what we'd do without them. 

I'm thankful for McKenna and her health. She has been without health insurance for over a year and the worst she's had is colds and a couple ear infections. We have been truly blessed with that. 

I am so very thankful for friends. With as awesome as we are I know it's hard to believe, but we don't have a lot of them. We've been in a position the last couple of years that have made it hard to cultivate friendships. We are looking forward to now being in a position again to do that.

Our friends Levi and Jessica (who MOVED and we MISS them) made it so easy to keep a friendship going in our situation. They understood and went above and beyond what they had to. They had us over ALL the time and kept me SANE. They gave me shoulders to cry on, ears to complain to, brains to pick. Seriously amazing people and I hate that they're gone. HATE it. 

My friend Kayli is also amazing. We have only met in person a couple times but she has also been a brain to pick. She is an AWESOME example and I'm so thankful for her influence. 

Then there is Liz. Liz has been my photography mentor, friend, and spiritual guide. She understands me and how my brain works (which is amazing in and of itself) and can explain things in a way I understand. She has been invaluable. Seriously. 

And Amanda. Amanda has been there for me through every phase. (She's Cody's cousin.) We've only met in person once but have talked on Facebook and through text seriously almost every day for I don't know how long. Years maybe? She has been with me through my ups and downs, faith and doubt, happiness and sadness. I'm so lucky to have her! 

Jillian. My sister-in-law. She loves me accepts me even though we have different belief systems. There is a deep level of acceptance between us and it's just awesome. 

There are others, and I don't mean to leave anyone out. 

I am thankful for Cody. He has been...everything I need. He has been my north star helping me to find my way. We have found our ways together, I think. I am so thankful for his introducing me to our faith. It has had such an impact on my life. We are so blessed to have been sealed to each other and our daughter in the Salt Lake City LDS Temple in March. It was an amazing experience. I am just beyond thankful to have and eternal marriage and family. I feel complete. I love the Temple and all that it stands for. Heavenly Father loves us so much that he created a way for us to exist in eternity as a family unit. I couldn't think of anyone that I'd rather make that eternal commitment to than Cody.

My heart is just so full right now. There are days that I struggle. Of course. Don't we all at times? But at the end of the day, I know how I feel and I know what I believe. I am so very thankful for the plan of salvation. 

Be A Blessing

So, I was thinking the other day....

Cody and I have been back in Church about 7 months now and we have been blessed beyond imagination! But if I'm being totally honest with you, it's not been in the ways I wanted. I know that God promises us blessings for following His plan. For tithing. For reading scriptures. For putting Him first. For lots of other things. I have been looking for blessings. I have been looking for a house. I have been looking for a job for Cody. I have been looking for temporal things. Things to make life easier. Things to make me *happy* in this life. I have been so caught up in "What am I getting out of this?" that I have completely missed the point! I have completely missed all of the blessings that we have been given. I have a great job. I have a business on the side that I love. I have a husband that would do anything within his power for me. I have family, both by blood and by marriage, that love and accept me for who I am. I have a smartsmartsmart, sweet, beautiful little girl who just lights up my world. She is happy. She is healthy. I am in a Church that I love!!! With a Church family that is second to none. I have friends that sacrifice of their time to share their knowledge, wisdom, and talents with me seeking nothing in return.

But this isn't about "Oh, look how wonderful my life is." I mean parts of it are....I still really would like to have a job for my husband and our own roof over our heads...

Here is, what I think, the point to living a righteous life is: It's not about getting blessings, it's about being a blessing. Have you ever thought that maybe God was wanting to bless you with something but that He couldn't because the person He wanted to use to manifest that blessing in your life isn't living their own life in a way that He can use them? (Does that make sense?) So let's go a little further with that thought: What if YOU are the one that is meant to be the manifestor (Yes, I know that's not a word but I like it. K?) of someone else's blessing but Heavenly Father can't use you because you aren't in a position that He can? Wow....when I had that thought....it hit me like a ton of bricks. I am always so focused on myself and what I can get out of everything that I completely forget the other people around me. I forget to look for what I can do for my husband, my child, family, and friends. Maybe I am meant to be a blessing in someone's life and they are getting their blessing because of me.

So my new goal is twofold: #1 Stop focusing on what I don't have and don't get to do and start focusing on what I do have. #2 Start looking for ways to bless other people.

I want to help. I want to be there for someone that needs me. So many people have helped me with so many things. I want to pay it forward. I want to be in a position spiritually that Heavenly Father can use me to manifest someone else's blessing.

I want to do right and live a righteous life not so I can receive blessings....but so I can BE a blessing.

Sharing

I have been having some really random thoughts lately. Instead of keeping them to myself or posting a quick Facebook status, I have decided to share them. I have a blog, so why not? Right?

The first thought I had was the vast difference in in telling a person something and sharing it with them. I can tell you about my God, my work, my family. Telling you requires no emotion. You get the facts. You know the story. Right? I think not. I want to strive to share things with people. By sharing my God with you, I can express to you how much I love Him and all the wonderful things that He's done for me. I can help you feel that same love and maybe see some things He's done for you as well. If I share my photography with you, I can explain to you how much work I've put into it and how much work will always be required. You can be excited with me when I get *that* shot I was going for. If I tell you a story about McKenna's newest achievement and mimic her sweet, precious little voice as best I can, you can laugh with me. You can be proud of my baby like I am.

I don't want to just tell you about my life, I want to share my life with you. I want you to read my posts and know how I'm feeling when I write them. If I have the pleasure of talking to you in person, I want you to hear the joy in voice and see the love in my eyes. Life is a wonderful gift. Family is so precious.

These are things that should be shared!